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Transcriber: Suresh Gupta
Question: What is the most effective way to combat anger?
Answer: Combating anger happens at three broad levels – the spiritual, psychological and physical.
At a spiritual level, if we do not have spiritual awareness, we think that we are meant to be the controllers, and everything should work according to our plans. When we are unable to exert our control, anger is just a natural response. With spiritual wisdom, we can understand that in the broader scheme of things we are not the controllers but we are co-operators. There is a higher plan in which we are meant to play our part. If things are not happening according our plan, we need to recalibrate how to function. Redefining ourselves as co-operators and not controllers substantially decreases anger.
Anger depends on how we process what has happened. And that depends on how we conceive ourselves. For example, if somebody shouts at us, naturally we feel hurt. If that person is someone whom we have a good relationship with, we do not expect them to act in that way. Suppose the person who shouts at us is a stranger, who is under the influence of drugs. More often than not, we do not care because they are lost in their own world. Therefore, while the event of shouting is the same, how we react to somebody yelling at us is dependent on how we are processing it. How we process it, depends on how we conceive ourselves in relationship to the other person.
Spiritual practices help us instil the belief that we are not the controllers. The more we do spiritual practices the more our anger will go down both at the conscious and sub conscious levels. Consciously, we start to understand that we are not the controllers. At the sub conscious level, if we do meditation, regularly come to spiritual association, we will find that within few months of practice those situations which would have provoked us earlier, are not affecting us so much.
At the psychological level, all of us need to express ourselves in some way. We deal with our emotions in two ways: express or repress. With spiritual knowledge, we open a third option – process. Processing means that we care about our anger. Let me explain using my own example.
Earlier I used to get angry very much. Even now I get angry. When I am angry on someone, I write an e-mail to the person. However, I have a policy that if I have written a mail in anger, I will not press the send button for twenty-four hours. By writing email, I vent my anger out. If I do not write, the anger will burn me. If I write and send it, anger will burn the other person. Hence, I follow an intermediate option – I express it by writing but do not send it. Whenever anger and thoughts are held inside us, they congest and choke […]
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