[The following was a talk I prepared to give, but didn’t, at a recent wedding. It is a summary of what came to me during my early morning chanting and prayer, and was a profound experience. It reminded me about the power of intention, being present, and prayer.] My wife and I have been entrusted to be the hosts or master of ceremonies of this wedding. We are more comfortable being facilitators, as we often are in workshops, rather than “masters.” I also thought that we are like midwifes helping a mother give birth, in this case through the wedding ceremony, with the marriage like the new born baby. We want this infant-marriage to mature and live a long, productive, happy life with deep spiritual practice! Perhaps our priest, is more in that role, or we all share it together.
After meditating on the deeper meaning of our role, I came to the conclusion that my wife and my real function is to “hold the energy of this ceremony,” if you are familiar with this expression. I am a firm believer in the importance of setting intentions for each day, and every endeavor we make, so I would like to suggest to you that we share this intention of holding the energy of the wedding by offering our prayers and blessings. Thus, in addition to being a witness of this joyous celebration, please also make an intention to be a participant, by praying and giving your blessings throughout the ceremony, to help with the best possible outcome.
We are actually an intentional community, though a temporary one, of shared purpose, consisting of our combined energy. To do this requires we are all as present as possible, or we could say that we must practice mindfulness, using this as a way to focus our mind on prayer and giving blessings. I like to ask myself at different times: Am I fully present? So I ask you to ask this question to yourself during the ceremony, and if you feel you are not present, to regroup, and pray to be present. You can also try what I going to share next.