
During a recent visit to one of the Sanga’s held in London I was asked by one of those attending if it was possible to visit their terminal ill farther in many ways an continuation of the request made to me by my Guru Maharaja.
It was a busy visit with a maha-clean of Radharani’s bakery and also the opportunity to give the evening class, so we made an arrangement to visit in the evening before my return to Wales.
Arriving I could see the crumpled diseased body which was suffering the pangs of a deteriorating body; unable to communicate it’s hard not to be moved by the suffering the material body goes through.
It was so nice as we started a small kirtan and as some of you know I’m no expert indeed I’ve been nicknamed the Kirtan killer but it was nice that the elderly gentleman responded indeed you couldn’t help but be moved by the families sincerity, love for their farther but most of all their seeking of spiritual guidance (something I am immensely disqualified to do) in order to keep their farther connected to Sri Krishna.
Followed was a small Gita class I gave the follow on from the previous evening’s class I gave, then came the questions and their was a lot. It is hard to see a anyone suffer even more so if it’s a loved one; and we forget what a physical and emotional toll this takes especially if one has taken up the often thankless task of looking after their loved one.
I had two realisations:
1) The need to make sure that we have support and regular devotee visits to sick and terminal ill individuals
2) That we have and offer support to the families
It reminded me that the earliest recorded infirmary (hospital) was not the large institutions we see today, but were connected to the monasteries; at large people understood that the body would die and would make sure the soul was well cared for.
As devotee’s we need to make sure that the body does not have to take birth again filling the air with the transcendental sound vibration of the maha-mantra; as in a vast majority of cases the hearing is the last thing to go to hear the blissful names of Sri Krishna makes the greatest of difference.
I’ve in my nursing years seen many spirit souls leave their body, often you see the pain in the facial features or the hollow emptiness of the eyes; but when the mahamantra and words of Sri Krishna are present there is bliss and a brightness in the eyes uncharacteristic of most souls experience of death.
They explained his joy in offering Tulasi Arati but now looking at the disease riddled body it appeared useless; my advice continue Please continue, Sri Krishna will remind him of the joy he felt offering Arati to Tulasi Maharani he will I am convinced remember.
Leaving I promised that on my return to London I would visit again, as they dropped me off at The Manor we spoke for some time in the car park; of the painful discussions ahead; it was nice to hear such openness indeed we do need to be honest in speaking about our struggles in Krishna Consciousness.
And as we parted way’s they asked that no matter what happens would I still visit, indeed it reminded me that this is the key to Krishna Consciousness friendship’s, a listening ear, understanding without condemning and a willingness to just be their.
If we want to show that ISKCON Cares then in my humble realisation it starts with:
“I learn to CARE”